{"id":1573,"date":"2020-03-05T08:17:17","date_gmt":"2020-03-05T08:17:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.autismconnect.com\/blogs\/?p=1573"},"modified":"2022-07-25T13:27:33","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T13:27:33","slug":"emotional-intelligence-and-autism-a-key-skill-to-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.autismconnect.com\/blogs\/emotional-intelligence-and-autism-a-key-skill-to-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Emotional Intelligence and Autism &#8211; A Key Skill to Success"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intelligence is one of the most sought-after features, but which no one has yet been able to define comprehensively. Definitions and attempts to measure it vary drastically, but not all criteria are accepted. Such a complex concept as intelligence cannot be grasped with one definition without neglecting some aspects, especially when it comes to emotional intelligence &amp; <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.autismconnect.com\/blogs\/know-your-child-early-signs-of-autism-and-interventions\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">autism<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>An earlier notion of Intelligence<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For years, we have been used to associating intelligence primarily with logical and mathematical skills &#8211; things such as computational fluency, logical and orderly reasoning, or solving puzzles. Intelligence was divided into blocks &#8211; linguistic, motor, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical and emotional. However, logical-mathematical intelligence as a very specific type of intelligence has long been considered one of the key success factors, especially of the professional one, while emotional intelligence is often sidelined.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To a large extent, intelligence depends on basic cognitive skills such as attention, perception, memory and language, but it also depends on the ability to interact with other people, to read their emotions- empathy, and the ability to decode and manage your own emotional states.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gradually, scientists began to notice a strange paradox: on the one hand, in fact, there were people with very high IQ, who, however, failed both in their careers and in private life. On the other hand, there were people who, although they did not have logical-rational skills above average, did amazing careers with great satisfaction even in the personal sphere.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What has been observed after a closer look at those two groups is that the \u2018not-so-strict mind\u2019 comes out more victorious in terms of success in life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>So which are the IMPORTANT SKILLS for success?\u00a0<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The distinctive features of successful people are those that:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">have ease in making decisions<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">have perfect self-control and self-awareness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">practice their creativity and cultivate interests<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are excited about everyday challenges and actively express enthusiasm<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">they are persistent and consistent<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">they maintain optimism and hope even in the most difficult moments<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are great at interpersonal processes &#8211; in establishing social ties and team working<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">opens to knowledge<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">active motivation\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">with great empathy skills &#8211; they perfectly recognise the emotions of others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">effectively &#8216;manage&#8217; interpersonal relations and relationships<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Based on these observations, it turned out that to achieve your goals and lead a happy life, you also need a different kind of intelligence: the intelligence of our emotions, precisely measured using emotional quotient.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotions are impulses that represent us and connect us with the world. Although we may miss them at first glance and their influence is a very important help for the logical mind. For example, emotions help our most rational part make better choices.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we are able to make the right decisions for us and our lives, it is thanks to tips and emotional information constantly sent to the rational part.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we did not feel joy, boredom or disgust at various moments of our everyday life, we would not be able to determine what we like and what we would rather not choose taking into account our feelings. Whether to become a baker, singer or dressmaker, try a new path, or stay on a predetermined one. Moreover, the famous &#8220;good or bad premonitions&#8221; protect us from catastrophic decisions and push us towards those that are more suitable for us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intelligence consists not only of the ability to decipher your own feelings, but also the ability to support, understand and manage them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>What about the emotions and their expression and management in kids with autism?<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recognising the dynamics and multidimensionality of autism, it is emphasised that in the population of young children with autism there is a large variety of emotional responses expressed in contact with loved ones. From states of indifference, &#8220;strangeness&#8221;, panic fear reactions when a child is moved away from the mother, to strong and rich emotions proving the child&#8217;s attachment to loved ones. The ability to feel strong emotions can be expressed by a longing for parents and home in a situation of temporary separation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although some of the children demonstrate their emotional attachment to parents and their guardians, they do not respond to the love and feelings shown to them in the way they expect. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.autismconnect.com\/blogs\/parents-empowerment-to-evolve-adapt-and-develop-by-a-m-pilipionek-autism-cookbook\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Parents of children with autism<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> report that their children are reluctant to open their arms to hug or in the moment of pain, worry, threat to comfort them, and even give the impression of being unaware that this is possible. They ignore or misinterpret people&#8217;s emotional behaviour. Parents also note that they make no distinction between them and the objects they are fascinated by.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyday contact with children with autism gives the opportunity to observe that most of them show simple feelings, such as anger, fear, joy, sadness and fear, very strongly. However, most of these emotions are characterised by a specific dysfunction. Autistic Children often do this in a way inappropriate to the situation, much differently than we are used to.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h5><b>They are characterised not by &#8220;poverty of feelings&#8221; but rather by a qualitative difference, disharmony of emotions and disposition. They are full of amazing contradictions, working as a \u201dcamouflage\u201d in numerous cases.<\/b><\/h5>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is critical we teach how to recognise, how to manage and how to read emotions of other people. This is one of the most important social skills that is the key of everyone\u2019s personal success and harmonious life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling emotions is a condition that is internally hidden, subjective, available only to the person experiencing it at a given moment. Therefore, we often have difficult access to the sphere of experiencing emotions in children with autism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We need to teach autistic children how to learn the states of mind, how to decode and express their own feelings, even if they feel fear or anger, everyone has an ability to moderate emotions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A child with autism with limited awareness of other people&#8217;s emotional states repeatedly reacts inadequately to the situation and is unable to determine their own emotions in relation to another person. Situational indicators and mimic expressions of other people are not an indicator for differentiating and understanding the emotions experienced by other people. If you can not perceive mental states, you can not show empathy, distinguish between humor and danger, and above all, have close relationships. Sharing emotions with other people seems pointless when you can&#8217;t see how it affects me and other people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2013 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.autismconnect.com\/alina-magdalena-pilipionek\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A.M.Pilipionek \u2013 Autism CookBook<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can read more blogs by this author <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.autism-cookbook.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">here<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Intelligence is one of the most sought-after features, but which no one has yet been able to define comprehensively. 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